Relying on others to shape who we are is the basis of codependence. It is, in effect, creating our feelings and behaviors around something external, rather than figuring out for ourselves what our feelings and behaviors should be and how they should look.

“Independence is happiness.” Susan B. Anthony

Autonomy, or true independence, is the ability to make decisions based on what you have learned about the world, your experiences, perceptions, and feelings, and how you interact with the world. Independence is empowering. Codependence is stifling.

Here are five practical ways to become less codependent and grow your valuable independence:

1.  Get to know who you are inside.

There are so many approaches to do this. One is to begin journaling your thoughts and feelings about your daily activities. Then ask yourself, “Is that the truth?” and “Is that how I feel about it?” Many times, upon reflection, we find that we have simply...

As I look forward to each day, I ask myself what is going to happen. I reflect on the possibility of meeting new people and living another exciting day full of positive experiences.

I love my life. I work hard to create a home that fits me. I surround myself with people I love who bring joy and interest to my life. My spare time is filled with fulfilling activities. I even take a healthy risk to try new things and test my mettle from time to time.

Whenever I experience stressful situations, I close my eyes briefly and remind myself that this is a part of life. I tell myself to stand strong and ride out of the problem. Later on, after I make it through the troubling times, I recognize that those experiences contribute to the excitement and adventure of my life.

I realize that I must experience the lows of life also to feel the highs. Like riding the roller coaster at the county fair, there are times that I hold on as tight as I can to make it through the loops...

As our usage of technology and the internet become more prevalent, women find ourselves as a society relying more and more on it and less and less on ourselves. But technology cannot solve all problems. It is not always available, nor do we usually want it to be. There are simply parts of the human mind, body, and soul irreplaceable - by technology or anything else!

The more technology runs our world, being independent becomes both more accessible and more complex. By learning to become more personally independent, you increase your chances of success in all areas of your life. Independent refers to all aspects of your life, including career, emotional, financial, personal faith, and beliefs. Self-reliance is a skill set that comes easier to some women than others, but it is a skill that everyone can benefit from all the time.

Here are six areas of your life that are sure to become stronger once you learn to stand on your own two feet:

1. Self-Esteem

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I enjoy happiness and serenity because I open my heart to peace.

I slow down. I take frequent breaks when I am working. I pause between tasks, so I can give myself time to transition. I eat mindfully, noticing my food and savoring each bite.

I clear away clutter. Organizing my surroundings reduces anxiety. I feel more grounded when I can see my desk.

I simplify my routines. I set priorities and scratch less urgent tasks off my to-do list. I look for more efficient ways to run errands and manage my finances. I spend less time watching TV and posting on social media.

I meditate on God's Word and pray. I pay attention to my breath and quiet my thoughts. I wish for peace for the world and myself. Peace reigns in my heart.

I connect with nature. I walk around the block at lunch or sit by a window where I can see the trees. I play softball in the park or grow vegetables in my backyard.

I practice acceptance. I accept reality instead of struggling...

Can you stand on your own two feet? Are you the independent type, or do you rely on others for your answers, care, and decisions? If you are looking to improve your independence, you are in luck! It is never too late to increase your independence, and doing so will significantly increase your freedom to enjoy your life with no limits!

Indeed, we are often the person who holds us back the most. And if you think that is true - what areas are you holding yourself back from achieving more success? Is it your health, finances, business, or relationships? It is probably more than one of these. So here are four areas of your life where you can create more independence and begin thinking for yourself:

1.  Health

I think everyone can agree that you cannot make gains in any other areas of your life without your health. To be independently healthy, you need to exercise good habits in your life, such as eating quality foods, getting the proper nutrition, and staying active....

I celebrate every small win. I find joy even in tiny achievements. My acknowledgment of these small wins helps me achieve bigger ones. As I celebrate my success, I show gratitude and thank those who support me.

My small accomplishments help me see progress.

This progress gives me a boost and encourages me to keep going. It helps me feel that I accomplish important things.

I cross off each win on my path to a bigger picture.

I celebrate my accomplishments with my family and friends. Even a small win deserves a party.

I divide my goals into smaller pieces. This makes them more manageable and lets me celebrate each little accomplishment on the list. I see progress all the time. I help others shape their goals into reasonable parts.

Minor milestones help me see that success is within my reach.

They show that my work has meaning. They let me refine my objectives, so my goals are easier to achieve.

The joy I feel with each...

It is common to want to have a sense of belonging. When women belong, we are established as part of the group. That sense of belonging is a normal human need, just as food and shelter. If you feel like you belong, you feel your life has value. And you cope with your emotions better.

Sometimes, we lose our sense of belonging, though. This can be for a myriad of reasons. Traumatic events could influence a person’s self-compassion and self-esteem. Trauma can leave survivors out of sync with the world. They feel lonely, overwhelmed, in turmoil, and have emotional pain that creates a different sense of anxiety.

Humans are social beings. The quality of our relationships is affected by our emotional, mental, and physical health. Researcher and author Brené Brown says, “A deep sense of love and belonging is a fundamental requirement of all men, women, and children. Biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually we are wired to love, to be loved, and to...

 My opinions are valuable, valid, and relevant because I have a lifetime of experiences.

My opinions are just as important as everyone else’s. I have intelligent thoughts to share with the world. My thoughts and beliefs are insightful and meaningful. Others are grateful for my perspective and advice. I want to support others by letting them know what I think.

I am confident that my words possess the power to change lives.

My friends often seek my advice. I openly share my opinion on the situation we are discussing. My family members love to listen to my opinions. The things I say are important and interesting to them.

I feel comfortable voicing my opinion on any topic in all situations. I know my viewpoint is well-received and respected. Others enjoy listening to me talk and place a high value on the things I say. I enjoy speaking up and take every opportunity to share my thoughts.

When I feel like my opinion is unimportant, I remind...

Age has little to do with the enthusiasm of my heart. I keep my heart lively by focusing on the significant issues in life. My heart remains young.

I take time to enjoy fun activities because doing so keeps my heart laughing. Appreciating the humor in life prevents me from being bogged down by its stresses. I can see what is important in my existence.

I choose friends based on their similarities of the heart. I avoid using age to determine someone's compatibility with me. Individuals who relish life hold a forever place in mine.

The timeless state of nature helps me to value every day on Earth. It helps me realize that being present at each moment maintains my heart. I focus on how nature restores itself and brings forth youth in an endless cycle. When something gets me down, I quickly get rid of it and concentrate on innovation.

Negativity has little place in my life. I maintain a healthy mind and soul by practicing positive living. I lean into God for...

I find pleasure in simple things and simple life. Having a simple life has many advantages. Simplicity ensures that I can thoroughly enjoy my life.

I acquire and keep only the things that mean the most to me. Having too many possessions and commitments requires too much of my time, money, and energy. Yet, the value that they add to my life is little.

I focus on the most important people, things, and activities in my life. This lifestyle is most enjoyable to me.

It is easier to have a complete life when life is simple. Complex life has missing elements. The complexity always ensures that something is missing.

A simple life has the necessary room to make additions. Valuing a simple life means it is also easy to subtract things. Subtraction is more than easy because it is enjoyable. I am excited when I find a way to make my life even more simple.

A simple life has financial advantages, too. I only spend my money on those things that are necessities...