When You Feel Like You Are “Too Much” or “Not Enough.”

Many Christian women quietly carry the belief that something about them is wrong. They are either too emotional, too intense, too cautious, or too slow. Others believe they are not bold enough, disciplined enough, or spiritual enough.

These conclusions are rarely spoken aloud, yet they shape how women walk with God. Instead of moving forward with confidence, they second-guess themselves, suppress strengths, or attempt to imitate others whose lives appear more effective or admirable.

God never asked His daughters to walk as replicas. He designed them to walk as reflections.

The Lie We Often Walk With (Lie-Locked Living)

The Lie: Something about the way I am is a problem.

This lie produces shame-based striving. Women try to correct their temperament instead of steward it. They override intuition, silence discernment, and dismiss strengths that do not look like someone else’s.

Lie-Locked Living here looks like:

• Comparing spiritual maturity through personality
• Forcing disciplines that do not align with wiring
• Distrusting how God uniquely speaks and leads

God does not make mistakes in design. He makes assignments.

Scripture Anchor (KJV)

“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” — Psalm 139:14 (KJV)

David did not praise God merely for what he did—but for how he was made. Identity preceded assignment.

Until a woman accepts how God designed her, she will struggle to trust how He leads her.

Biblical Story: Many Parts, One Body

Paul’s teaching to the Corinthians dismantles comparison at its root.

“But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him.” — 1 Corinthians 12:18 (KJV)

The eye was never meant to function as a hand. The foot was never meant to reason like the head. Diversity was intentional.

The problem is not difference. The problem is dishonor.

The Truth Mindset™ Framework: Design Leads the Walk

Target the Lie (Awareness)
Believing your wiring is a flaw instead of a feature.

Replace with Scripture (Anchor)
God intentionally formed your temperament and tendencies.

Understand Its Meaning (Alignment)
Growth comes from stewardship, not suppression.

Turn It into a Declaration (Activation)
Truth spoken restores confidence.

Hold It in Prayer (Abide)
Surrender invites God to refine design, not erase it.

Science That Supports the Truth

Psychology confirms that temperament is biologically influenced and relatively stable. While behaviors can mature, core wiring remains consistent. When individuals attempt to operate against their design, stress and burnout increase.

This aligns with biblical wisdom. God calls women to maturity—not mimicry.

“There are diversities of operations, but it is the same God which worketh all in all.” — 1 Corinthians 12:6 (KJV)

Coaching Insight: Wiring and Walking

DISC assessments reveal predictable patterns in how people process information, respond to pressure, and move toward goals. None of these styles are spiritual hierarchies.

Some women walk decisively. Others walk reflectively. Some walk relationally. Others walk analytically.

Coaching helps women understand how to move forward faithfully rather than forcefully.

Tools & Strategies to Walk It Out

1. Name Your Natural Tendencies
   Notice how you typically respond under stress or uncertainty.
2. Release Comparison
   Comparison distorts calling and delays obedience.
3. Choose Practices That Fit Your Wiring
   Consistency increases when disciplines align with design.
4. Invite God to Refine, Not Redesign
   Sanctification polishes what God formed—it does not replace it.

Assessment Insight: DISC & Compassion

Understanding DISC wiring fosters self-compassion and patience with others. When women stop labeling themselves as deficient, they begin walking with clarity and confidence.

God uses different temperaments to reveal different aspects of His nature.

Modern-Day Coaching Example

A woman once said, “I thought something was wrong with me because I do not lead like others.” Through coaching, she discovered that her reflective nature was not a weakness—it was a strength that fostered wisdom and discernment.

Once she stopped resisting her design, momentum replaced frustration.

Perspective Quote

“You are where you are because of who you are.”
— Brian Tracy

Growth begins when identity is honored, not resisted.

Truth Declaration

Truth Declaration:
I honor the way God designed me. I walk forward with confidence, stewarding my wiring as a gift, not a flaw.

Gentle Coaching Reflection

• Where have you been judging your design instead of stewarding it?
• How might honoring your wiring change the way you walk with God?
• What strength have you been overlooking?

Closing Encouragement: Walk as Designed

God never intended uniformity. He intended unity.

When you walk as designed—submitted to truth and guided by the Spirit—you reflect His wisdom in ways no one else can.

“Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.”
— Proverbs 31:25 (KJV)