How To Make Strong Relationships With DISC & Connect Assessments

Healthy relationships are not built on guesswork. They are built on understanding, communication, and grace. As Christian women, we long to connect deeply with our spouses, children, friends, coworkers, and communities. But often, miscommunication and misunderstanding keep us from experiencing the closeness and unity we desire.

The good news is that tools like the DISC Personality Assessment and the Connect Assessment can give us fresh insight into how God has uniquely wired us—and how we can better love and relate to others.

📖 “With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love.” — Ephesians 4:2 KJV

What is DISC?

The DISC model breaks down personality into four styles:

• D (Dominance): Task-oriented, direct, decisive.

• I (Influence): People-oriented, enthusiastic, expressive.

• S (Steadiness): Loyal, supportive, patient.

• C (Conscientiousness): Detail-oriented, precise, analytical.

When you know your own style, you understand how you naturally approach situations. When you recognize someone else’s style, you can adapt your communication to connect more effectively.

What is the Connect Assessment?

The Connect Assessment is another tool that highlights your relational style. For example:

• Lion: Bold, decisive leader.

• Otter: Fun-loving, outgoing, loves people.

• Golden Retriever: Loyal, dependable, values relationships.

• Beaver: Detail-focused, values rules and structure.

Each style has God-given strengths. Understanding them allows you to appreciate differences instead of letting them become sources of frustration.

📖 “Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.” — Proverbs 27:17 KJV

How These Tools Improve Communication

1. Reduce Misunderstandings
   Instead of assuming someone is being difficult, you recognize their behavior as their natural style. This shifts the focus from frustration to compassion.

2. Build Bridges, Not Walls
   You learn to adjust your approach—maybe softening your tone with a Steady type, or being more direct with a Dominant type. These small shifts make conversations smoother and more meaningful.

3. Strengthen Relationships Through Grace
   When we understand differences as God’s design, we learn to honor them. Instead of criticizing, we celebrate diversity in personality and relational style.

Biblical Example: Paul and Barnabas

In Acts 15, Paul and Barnabas had a sharp disagreement about John Mark. From a DISC lens, Paul showed a strong D style—focused on the mission and unwilling to risk failure. Barnabas leaned toward an I/S—believing in people and giving second chances.

Though they parted ways, God still used both approaches. Their differences were not weaknesses but part of His greater plan. This shows us that understanding personality differences can help us see others through God’s eyes, even in conflict.

Truth Declaration

💬 “I will honor God’s design in myself and others, seeking to understand, communicate with grace, and build stronger relationships in Christ.”

Practical Steps to Improve Communication Today

• Take the DISC or Connect Assessment and invite your spouse or close friend to do the same.

• Share your results with one another and talk about what feels true.

• Pray together, asking God to help you appreciate differences as strengths.

• Practice adjusting your communication this week to better connect with someone in your life.

📖 “Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.” — Proverbs 31:25 KJV

Download a free PDF: Relationship Reflection Guide: Using DISC & Connect

How To Make Strong Relationships With DISC & Connect Assessments